This Speaker Can Teach You How To Become Happier
Date: March 17, 2016
We all want to be happier and given the choice, most of us would change at least one thing in our lives to do so.
Don’t you wish you could be like your co-worker who is smiley and energetic on a Monday morning? Or your friend who isn’t phased by living in poverty with no idea of what tomorrow holds.
No matter your current circumstances, you can become happier – even if you’re not totally content with your job, house or whatever it is. But beyond that, there are ways you can inspire others too – like what speaker and coach Diane Lang does on a daily basis.
We spoke with her on how she helps people to turn their lives around and what tips she has for people to be grateful for each day.
There are many qualities that make a successful speaker but being able to make your audience feel amazing about themselves is a clear sign that you’re doing something amazing.
Hi Diane, can you tell us about the topics you cover in your speeches?
I cover various emotional wellness topics such as: Happiness/positive psychology, letting go of anger and finding forgiveness, re-training your brain for positive, emotional intelligence, positive parenting, work-life balance, mid-life transitions, de-cluttering your life and reducing stress.
What inspired you to become a speaker?
I have been working as a mental health counsellor and educator for about 12 years. A big chunk of these years were spent teaching colleges which I loved.
When my second book came out called Creating Balance And Finding Happiness, I wanted to get out there and share the tips to happiness, so I started teaching workshops. From there, it expanded to corporations, colleges and keynote speaking.
You use positive psychology to boost your clients’ happiness and self-esteem. What are some ways you do this?
As a counsellor and coach, I incorporate a lot of exercises and homework into the sessions. For example, I have clients send me their gratitude checks daily and write down 2-3 things they did well each day to start re-training their brain from negative to positive. I have them send me this with their gratitude.
I do other types of exercises that improve their happiness levels and re-train their brain to positive thinking.
How do we know if we’re truly happy?
I have my clients start out in their first session with the questions: On a scale of 1-10 – 10 being the happiest – where are you? Most clients pick between a 5-6. Then we create a goal to reach that’s realistic. So, maybe a client will go from a 5 to a 6.5 or 7.
I also have my clients write a list of 5 things that bring them happiness. We then look at their life to see if they are doing any of these things that bring happiness. If they don’t, we add them to a schedule.
Happiness is a choice/perspective, so just taking steps to cultivate happiness creates a sense of happiness just by creating goals and taking action. Happiness can go up and down like a roller coaster ride.
I want everyone to know even “happy” people have bad days.
Is it possible for a person to become more positive despite disliking their job, not having many friends etc.?
Yes, everyone can be happier than where they are today. So, if a client is having issues with their job or relationships we can still be happier.
What gets you out of bed in the morning?
I get out of bed excited to be in the self-help field. I get to help people every day through teaching and sharing my story and knowledge on happiness through counselling, coaching and speaking.
My day job is my flow and I’m so grateful for it.
Do you do any workshops to teach positive psychology and if so, what do these consist of?
I teach a lot of workshops on positive psychology which consists of a summary of what is positive psychology and the tips to living a happy lifestyle.
The tips are all simple, easy to add into your schedule and free! My website lists all of my workshops that are open to the public: www.dlcounseling.com/news.
If someone were to hire you to speak at their event, what can they expect?
When I’m hired at an event, you can expect not just the workshop/presentation, but also handouts with more information to take home plus a Q&A.
I give out a lot of information and use real life examples from my many years as a counsellor and coach.
What’s the most important thing that people take away from your speeches?
I think the most important thing is attendees leave with at least 4-5 real life tools that can change their life for the better. These strategies are easy to use but make a huge difference to our happiness levels.
Do you have any advice for individuals who may be going through a difficult time right now?
For anyone going through a difficult time at the moment, remember it’s only temporary. We have the power to change our lives if we want to. Happiness is available to everyone!
That means YOU too. The inspiring thing about this article is Diane’s teachings and reminder on taking the time to improve our lives and want more. We weren’t born to live a life of misery.
We are all worthy of enjoying our lives, but it starts with a will and a desire to change and take time out of our busy schedules to work on our mindset.