Doctors told me there was no known cure, to go home, avoid any mental, emotional or physical stress and I might be all right in four to five years. That was in 1992. The diagnosis of Chronic Fatigue Syndrome turned out to be an opportunity to heal my life and to help others to do the same.
I made the decision then and there not to believe them and an inner exploration began. I made a commitment to heal my life (not CFS) and I was willing to do what-ever it took. I had no idea of the journey I was about to embark on and what I would find. Looking back, it’s easy to see that chronic fear was present long before the fatigue showed up. CFS could have easily been called Chronic Fear Syndrome.
As I explored beneath the surface, I found some old fearful and outdated beliefs I held on tightly to about my self, God, and Love which were working against me, making me super stressed and anxious and separating me from natural well-being. Bit by bit I eased myself above those diseased beliefs until I found faith not in a religious sense, but as a natural attitude and a real sense of self.
My mission in life became one of raising faith. I was inspired to step into those bigger shoes and begin what feels like an Olympic Journey, inspiring and supporting others like me to step up with a new found attitude of faith, able now to cross that fine line from fear to freedom.
I think, it’s high time we, individually and collectively realise the power of our beliefs, and understand how we, regardless of our position can be a major part of the problem or we can be a significant part of the solution. Each one of us has within us the power to participate in our own holistic healing, and equally in the healing of others. As we turn in and reconnect with the natural attitude of faith, we can turn away from the bombardment of fear, the fearful and insane information imposed upon us, as well as the old-age self-driven crazy beliefs we have developed and allowed to run our lives.
Recovering a real sense of self and restoring faith and trust is the solution. This means taking responsibility for uncovering and freeing your self of your own unhealthy core beliefs, and the stories you tell your self. Remember, you don’t have to do something to be someone. When you have faith in who you are, you can trust your self to do whatever it is that aligns with your real nature, and that which makes your heart sing.
Your change of attitude will not only change your life, but will greatly and positively influence those around you. The the ripples of these life-changing experiences will flow outward, dramatically effecting others around the world.
My down-to-earth inspired, healing and thought provoking talks and lectures are available to the public and private groups and organisations. They arise from amazing insights, and the personal healing I found, along with the simple but invaluable learning I gained from witnessing healing, and a shift of attitude within clients over the past 25 years. Remember, It’s never too late to change your mind.
I love T.S. Elliot’s quote: ‘Only those who risk going to o far will ever know how far they can go’
Are you ready to have those crucial conversations? Are you ready to see how far we can go in disabling those fear driven illnesses, so we can reunite with our ability to do things which before seemed impossible?
I am …
They say there is a fine line between madness and being a genius. And I am sure most of us will know at least one of those people. As we are willing to see these people differently we might just get to see a genuine person and a genius mind being reflected back! Isn't it time to stop being afraid of our own genius and genuine spiritual self and to explore who we really are beyond our conditioning?
We are in an era where carers have become one of the most valued roles in the community. However, many of these carers take on this enormous role without being fully equipped. We often become stressed and time poor and we forget that we ourselves are emotional human beings with unique emotional needs. As we forget this we can also over-look the unique emotional needs of those we care for.
“As we the carer work on restoring the attitude of faith our selves we will fully understand that the premise also works for the people we care for. Hence we are the carer and the one being cared for.”
I found that it isn't what happens to us that creates hell in our lives; it's the stories we tell our self and the beliefs we form that keeps the hurt alive and us dying. As we remember that the quality of our beliefs and stories determine the quality of the life we lead, we look at what drives them - the higher and lighter energy of Faith or the lower dense and dark energy of fear. Do we listen to the unconditional lighter voice of our higher self talk or do we listen to the limiting, critical voice of our lower self talk?
By listening carefully I can hear beyond the stories my clients tell me to the beliefs and the stories that runs their life. As we address these issues the presenting issue has a much better chance of easing.
Many people are still wearing the beliefs of their ancestors.Many of these hand-me-downs are generations old and well past their use-by date. And they wonder why they are running around in circles trying to appease and please others. Letting go of those psychological apron strings can be difficult and if not addressed can lead to either conforming to a life of others or rebelling, often in an appropriate way in order to make our own mark on earth. YOur willingness will bring Faith on board allowing you to take that first of many little steps
I found that fear is often the driver behind many illnesses, or at least can prevent the healing from taking place. Through fear or lack of acceptance we often suppress the emotions of grief, loss, trauma, anger, sadness, hatred and an array of others. As we do we also suppress the powerful flow of life's energy and essence of self love, meaning we leave our most valuable healing kit buried beneath the rubble of the presenting problem. We dam ourselves up. Can you imagine how much energy we use up trying to keep that dam from breaking? No wonder many of us are chronically sick and tired. And to add to the problem many people I come across are still claiming that there is no cure for certain diseases - and as they believe so it is. People have told me and others that we couldn't have had chronic fatigue syndrome if we are claiming to be well! By committing, not to heal the issue but to restore self love and faith we raise our awareness to bringing in new ways of re-treating the physical symptoms and restoring well-being
Stress is commonly known as the modern day disease. And how true that is. Excess stress is the same as fear and most of it is unwarranted. Both stress and fear can become habits and need to be addressed at root level. Stress can create disease, disorders, illness, weight gain or loss, pain and behavioral problems. It can slow down the healing process, prevent people from getting well, from overcoming injury, pain, or achieving their goals and dreams.
Anxiety and Depression affect huge numbers across the globe. Are they not from the same source of fear? Depression and anxiety can be connected by the same underlying attachments and beliefs. Those attachments acts like a pendulum swinging from the depths of despair to the heights of anxiety and back again. High levels of stress or fear keeps us wound up like a jack in the box. We often need to be in control and yet we yearn for freedom. The need to understand and be perfect perpetuates the situation. As we judge it we create even more conflict and we wonder why we can feel as if we are going mad. We put even more pressure on our mind/body system, as we push down hard against what ever it is we don't want to see or don't want others to see. The effort it takes is exhausting and leaves us fatigued. Eventually, having run out of steam, that very thing we were trying so hard to suppress pops or blows up out of control. We push the lid back down again and declare never to let it out again. Dealing with the stress and fearful beliefs at root level is the key to healing the presenting issues and releasing the pent up steam more easily and naturally. True recovery comes about from recovering our true nature.
Unrecognized and unresolved grief, loss and trauma can be stored as stress in our mind/body system. This stress can result in conflict, illness, disease or breakdowns of some description. (any of the above) Again working to resurrect an attitude of faith allowed us to work with the underlying stress and stressful beliefs can release the old trauma, ease the diseases and resolve the inner conflict. I found that as soon as the pain or trauma disappeared from my system I was able to remember the good times again with good feelings. With that I could also see my future in a new light.
What comes first the addiction to the chemical we use and abuse or the addiction to the chemicals we produce through self abuse which causes us to go outside of our self to find something to make us feel better.. Often it is the addiction to guilt, shame and blame that keeps us caught up on the swings of addiction and aversion. The more pressure we put on our self to give something up the more guilty we are likely to feel and the more likely we are to surrender to the addiction. When we refocus our attention on what we want to achieve instead of what we want to give up we will more easily see those deeper beliefs that hinder us. As with any addiction or aversion we need to bring faith into the picture so we can choose from a place of love rather than fear.
We see many overweight people doing their best to lose weight and often without success or putting the weight back on again after the diet is finished. . The more we put pressure on our self to lose weight the more likely we are to fall back into old comfortable patterns. Often the weight can provide us with an unconscious sense of protection. We can over-eat as a way to fill that hole or to push down what desperately needs to come out. Again when we get beneath the surface we find the real reason for the weight gain or for the weight not coming off . When we put faith in the drivers seat we will arrive at our destination more safely and easily
We can keep trying to heal our past hurts for years and years but if we are still carrying guilt, shame or blame around with us we will continue to rock the boat and often find our selves drowning in a quagmire of pain. We can not bring about healing from such a shallow and muddy mind set. Many people spend a life time trying to understand the "why" and let's face it, often we will never know why. All we do is to deny ourselves the good health well-being we are looking for. Only through the power of acceptance or forgiveness which is driven by faith that we can we let go of that old painful energy and hurt and become all for-giving again. Through this process, and if it is necessary for us to know the 'why' the understanding will come through a higher level of consciousness. As the pain leaves we are able to see everything in a brand new light.
I found that it is not always easy to teach spirituality because it is very personal and will be different for each individual. Spirituality isn't about conforming. It's about transforming those old outdated man-made and sometimes mad-mans beliefs, going beyond our conditioned way of thinking,and knowing who we really are without the masks and labels that limit us. I found that by being willing to change the way I saw God, love and myself, the light went on and the darkness of fear disappeared. Today, for me spirituality is all wrapped up in the one powerful and natural attitude of faith.
My experience and my time as a professional practitioner and my personal life has shown me that no matter what tools we have to choose from, real love or faith are the most natural and powerful of the lot. When we step aside and let faith turn us on it becomes that which turns all tools into power tools. When this power is applied it has the capacity to overcome and become the solution for all things.
I found that no matter what the issue, raising the natural attitude and awareness of faith, automatically lowers the un-natural energy of fear. Now faith in love becomes that which turns the key to driving our life and our body more gently and safely to higher levels of living, loving and achieving. I found my fearful beliefs about God, Love and my self were keeping me at arms length and from all that I wanted. When I restored Faith as a natural attitude, all things became possible.
Our A N S W E R S are in our A W A R E N E S S .... this means that by practicing remaining present, in the here and now we will become aware of what we are thinking, feeling and believing. Once we are aware we are given new choices as to how we think, feel and believe and act. Faith is the key that turns our awareness on.
Marie C (Carer)
Sam (Social Worker)
Katie (Director of nursing home)
Monique (Alternative Healer)
Janice (Social Worker)
Paul (Property Developer)