How did I go from a traditional business and from living a so-called normal life to something that seemed so outrageous at the time?
My life was turned upside down when I was diagnosed with Chronic Fatigue Syndrome in 1992. Doctors told me there was no known cure, to go home, avoid any mental, emotional or physical stress and I might be all right for four to five years.
I made the decision then and there not to believe them and an inner exploration began. I made a commitment to heal my life (not CFS) and I was willing to do what-ever it took. I had no idea of the journey I was about to embark on and what I would find.
I discovered that chronic fear was present long before the fatigue showed up. My mission in life became one of raising faith and lowering fear until faith became stronger and fear no longer presented as a problem.
My exploration found some old fearful and outdated beliefs I held on tightly to about my self, God, and Love which were working against me and separating me from natural well-being. Bit by bit I eased myself above those diseased beliefs I until I found myself, God and Love in the same light.
CFS became a blessing in disguise as I found skills and talents I never knew I had. It also launched me into a new way of life and into a new career as a therapist, coach, writer and author. My series of ‘I AM’ programs were launched in 1999. ‘I AM’ became a way of life for me and the foundations for my work. Who would have thought all those years ago that my commitment would lead to releasing a book ‘I AM’ from fear to Freedom.
My series of down-to-earth, Inspirational, thought-provoking and healing ‘I AM’ lectures are available to public and private groups and organisations. They offer information and inspiration for our young, youth and adults to look beyond the fearful man-made world which is fast becoming a mad-mans world – and discovering for your self the power within to live, love, heal and achieve at a higher level, with more ease.
‘I AM’ A Spiritual Approach to Mental Health and “I AM’ A Safer approach to Caring offer solutions to the Global increase in mental-illness and the decrease of good ‘carers’ due to burn-out.
My life experiences in the “Caring’ profession over the past 20 years, both as a receiver and a giver have provided me with more valuable lessons and growth than my academic education. My personal experiences in ‘caring’ for loved ones on their journey have been challenging but rewarding. They have given me the most precious gifts. Together, all of those people, events and experiences have made me grow into who I am today and have become the foundations of my sharing.
I believe that being Human is the highest degree I can aspire to and ‘Being’ my true self is the most valuable gift I can offer others
They say there is a fine line between madness and being a genius. And I am sure most of us will know at least one of those people. As we are willing to see these people differently we might just get to see a genuine person and a genius mind being reflected back!
With mental illness on the increase around the world it's time for us to think again and to take a new approach.
We are in an era where carers have become one of the most valued roles in the community. However, many of these carers take on this enormous role without being fully equipped. We often become stressed and time poor and we forget that we ourselves are emotional human beings with unique emotional needs. As we forget this we can also over-look the unique emotional needs of those we care for.
“As we the carer work on the ‘I AM’ premise for our selves we will fully understand that the premise also works for the people we care for. Hence we are the carer and the one being cared for.”
“As we the carer work on the ‘I AM’ premise for our selves we will fully understand that the premise also works for the people we care for. Hence … We are the carer and the one being cared for.”
I found that it isn't what happens to us that creates hell in our lives; it's the stories we tell our self and the beliefs we form that keeps the hurt alive and us dying. As we remember that the quality of our beliefs and stories determine the quality of the life we lead, we look at what drives them o- the higher and lighter energy of love or the lower dense and dark energy of fear. Do we listen to the unconditional lighter voice of our higher self talk or do we listen to the limiting, critical voice of our lower self talk?
By listening carefully I can hear beyond the stories my clients tell me to the beliefs and the stories that runs their life. As we address these issues the presenting issue has a much better chance of easing.
Many people are still wearing the beliefs of their ancestors.Many of these hand-me-downs are generations old and well past their use-by date. And they wonder why they are running around in circles trying to appease and please others. Letting go of those psychological apron strings can be difficult and if not addressed can lead to either conforming to a life of others or rebelling, often in an appropriate way in order to make our own mark on earth.
I found that fear is often the driver behind many illnesses, or at least can prevent the healing from taking place. Through fear or lack of acceptance we often suppress the emotions of grief, loss, trauma, anger, sadness, hatred and an array of others. As we do we also suppress the powerful flow of life's energy and essence of self love, meaning we leave our most valuable healing kit buried beneath the rubble of the presenting problem. We dam ourselves up. Can you imagine how much energy we use up trying to keep that dam from breaking? No wonder many of us are chronically sick and tired. And to add to the problem many people I come across are still claiming that there is no cure for certain diseases - and as they believe so it is. People have told me and others that we couldn't have had chronic fatigue syndromet if we are claiming to be well! By committing, not to heal the issue but to restore self love we raise our awareness to bringing in new ways of re-treating the physical symtoms and restoring well-being
Stress is commonly known as the modern day disease. And how true that is. Excess stress is the same as fear and most of it is unwarranted. Both stress and fear can become habits and need to be addressed at root level. Stress can create disease, disorders, illness, weight gain or loss, pain and behavioral problems. It can slow down the healing process, prevent people from getting well, from overcoming injury, pain, or achieving their goals and dreams.
Anxiety and Depression affect huge numbers across the globe. Are they not from the same source of fear? Depression and anxiety can be connected by the same underlying attachments and beliefs. Those attachments acts like a pendulum swinging from the depths of despair to the heights of anxiety and back again. High levels of stress or fear keeps us wound up like a jack in the box. We often need to be in control and yet we yearn for freedom. The need to understand and be perfect perpetuates the situation. As we judge it we create even more conflict and we wonder why we can feel as if we are going mad. We put even more pressure on our mind/body system, as we push down hard against what ever it is we don't want to see or don't want others to see. The effort it takes is exhausting and leaves us fatigued. Eventually, having run out of steam, that very thing we were trying so hard to suppress pops or blows up out of control. We push the lid back down again and declare never to let it out again. Dealing with the stress and fearful beliefs at root level is the key to healing the presenting issues and releasing the pent up steam more easily and naturally.
Unrecognized and unresolved grief, loss and trauma can be stored as stress in our mind/body system. This stress can result in conflict, illness, disease or breakdowns of some description. (any of the above) Again working with the underlying stress and stressful beliefs can release the old trauma, ease the diseases and resolve the inner conflict. I found that as soon as the pain or trauma disappeared from my system I was able to remember the good times again with good feelings. With that I could also see my future in a new light.
What comes first the addiction to the chemical we use and abuse or the addiction to the chemicals we produce through self abuse which causes us to go outside of our self to find something to make us feel better.. Often it is the addiction to guilt, shame and blame that keeps us caught up on the swings of addiction and aversion. The more pressure we put on our self to give something up the more guilty we are likely to feel and the more likely we are to surrender to the addiction. When we refocus our attention on what we want to achieve instead of what we want to give up we will more easily see those deeper beliefs that hinder us.
We see many overweight people doing their best to lose weight and often without success or putting the weight back on again after the diet is finished. . The more we put pressure on our self to lose weight the more likely we are to fall back into old comfortable patterns. Often the weight can provide us with an unconscious sense of protection. Again when we get beneath the surface we find the real reason for the weight gain or for the weight not coming off
We can keep trying to heal our past hurts for years and years but if we are still carrying guilt, shame or blame around with us we will continue to rock the boat and often find our selves drowning in a quagmire of pain. We can not bring about healing from such a shallow and muddy mind set. Many people spend a life time trying to understand the "why" and let's face it, often we will never know why. All we do is to deny ourselves the good health well-being we are looking for. Only through the power of acceptance or forgiveness can we let go of that old painful energy and hurt and become all for-giving again. Through this process, and if it is necessary for us to know the 'why' the understanding will come through a higher level of consciousness. As the pain leaves we are able to see everything in a brand new light.
I found that it is not always easy to teach spirituality because it is very personal and will be different for each individual. Spirituality isn't about conforming. It's about transforming those old outdated man-made and sometimes mad-mans beliefs, going beyond our conditioned way of thinking,and knowing who we really are without the masks and labels that limit us. I found that by being willing to change the way I saw God, love and myself, the light went on and the darkness of fear disappeared.
My experience through my time as a professional practitioner and in my personal life has shown me that no matter what tools we have to choose from that Love is still the most natural and powerful of the lot and is that which turns all tools into power tools. When the power of love is applied it has the capacity to overcome and become the solution for all things.
I found that no matter what the issue, raising the natural essence of faith or self love, or self awareness (or what ever you want to call it) automatically lowers the un-natural energy of fear and love becomes that which turns the key to driving our life and our body more gently and safely to higher levels of living, loving and achieving. I found my fearful beliefs about God, Love and my self were keeping me at arms length and from all that I wanted.
Our A N S W E R S are in our A W A R E N E S S .... this means that by practicing remaining present, in the here and now we will become aware of what we are thinking, feeling and believing. Once we are aware we are given new choices as to how we think, feel and believe. Awareness begins the process of change.